All the best.. Drop him. He gets ready for work. I started to let my guard down and he made me feel so comfortable and so loved and we had so much fun. Perhaps he's multi-dating, perhaps he went on vacation, or he's busy with his career. He replied an hour later that it definitely was a good night. He has not been in a relationship where he said he felt like he wanted to marry the person except for one girl who he was friends He made me feel so alive again. Own up to it like a man. I have to go out of town once a month for work and and we have always texted while I am away The last time I saw (Sunday) I kissed him good night and told him Id let him know when I got safely to my hotel the next day The next night (Monday) we exchanged a few texts and then he didnt answer my texts for 2 days so I got concerned and called him (Wednesday night) He told me he was grouchy and hadnt been sleeping well for the last several weeks but that he wanted to continue seeing me I told him I would call him when I got home I didnt receive any more communication from him, so when I got home (Saturday) I called him and got his voicemail (heres where I may have messed up) since he hadnt initiated any communication for the last 5 days I assumed he was ghosting me and left him a message saying I would like to come by and get some things I had left at his house and to talk with him I didnt hear back from him so I sent him a text saying the same thing the next day (Sunday), I tried to leave it open so he could contact me Its now been a week and I havent heard from him I havent called or sent him any messages I dont know what to do I feel that I may have communicated the wrong message Is he ghosting me or am I ghosting him Im so confused Any advice on what to do next would be great, I left a box containing around 50 DVDs at his place and would like to get them back. WHY wont these men stay in my life? I am guessing me spending the night was too real for him and he got freaked out or after seeing the real me he just changed his feelings and didnt know how to tell me. I know that if he really did love me he wouldnt ignore me like this. am really confused please help. Who HAVE declared love? I told him i knew he was never going to contact me again. Then here we are at the ninth month mark. Maybe he has a short attention span like a child and saw something shiny and got distracted. Anyways! These guys baffle me with their come on strong fantasies, calling you sweet heart, baby, or beautiful, all based on a picture. I never heard another word from him, that was 6 days ago. I got in his bed fully clothed in pajamas, he tried to take it further than making out, I respectfully declined. And the next day after that he texted me, he didnt say that it was over, but instead he said that I deserved someone better. No girl deserves this. Why is that! After two first dates with a lively beautiful blond (middle school teacher) I had to let her off the hook. I will walk and not look back UNLESS she puts an adequate amount into a mail/text/call in a calm, loving manner telling me she made a big mistake and apologising, offering to come and be with me and that were having a romantic relationship, not a demotion to friends who text small talk. Especially when its someone you felt really good about :/ its confusing and well never know why it happened. During the last day of the 5th month I drank a bit too much at a graduation party and texted him. We excitedly made plans to hang out. I am definitely not someone who will lose confidence over such things. Hey, there is a new cafe shop open in town that Ive been meaning to try. Im widowed, no children, no big baggage, attractive in my early 50s. Happy to help. Mat Boggs is known by many as one of the worlds leading experts in the areas of love and relationships. I mean, if things in the relationship were deep enough, then a guy just owes us something. When you meet the perfect guy, the last thing you want to happen is for him to ghost you. We risk 50% of our shit if we do. I care about me and my personal wellbeing. Its almost like a push and pull game with him. At some point, hell get you to chase after him, since thats what hes actually trying to get. Reading everyones stories, and particularly the helpful replies, has been comforting in my situation. The last time I saw him was a week ago- Tuesday 23rd, just before we both went home for Christmas. R. So you slept with him and he ghosted out on you. Just remember..people always make time if something is important to them.so that really is one lame excuse from his side.forget about him, the right one will come and make you forget about all the bad things of the past.keep strong and dont bother wasting one more second on this guy!!!! It sucks and its hurting inside, but theres no point wasting your emotion and waiting for someone who doesnt really care about your feelings. He wanted to flew to meet me (different country) and he made plan himself and I loved that plan and then he disappeared I thought he sick or anything i email him to asked if he was okay but he answered me hi, beautiful i had big test today, miss you so much, I will tell you about it when I get home I think he never gets home :( As it happens, when you least look for it destiny knocks.. :). I just think he was too coward to tell me face to face that he was actually lying to me. honesty does NOT work in early dating relationships. This depression, feeling of rejection, worry and stress ages you! I enjoyed the best of texting with a BF where his thoughtful texts brought smiles to my face and the worst where weve ended what we had through texting because it was so conveniently instant. Its just a horrible conversation to have. Oh I hear you, it sucks especially when you have been intimate with themThankfully, mine never got that farI strongly believe though, that in your case, he just needs time to re-evaluate things..Guys tend to behave that way when things become too intense and they are actually developing feelings and it scares them off a littleToo bad they dont consider all this when they are courting you, and more so before getting physical with you..He probably does like you, but does not know how to deal with it..and then there is the whole stupid Thrill of the chase phenomenon which really pisses me off..Just continue being the awesome person that you are, and dont acknowledge him, nor text him, nor reply to his texts for a whilehe needs to understand how its going to be without you in his lifeHe will come around, but make sure he works for it this time, if he is sincereHopefully by then, you wont care anymore. 3 turned intimate. Its been weeks since then and Ive not heard from him neither have I reached out. Lol. He had begun to tell me he was falling in love with me, and spoke of a future (kids, white picket fence, the whole ordeal). We went on winter break and he graduated from college. Very early into our relationship he told me how much he cares for me and that he even loves me.. Ive never been in a serious relationship before so I was hesitant on what I felt but said I cared for him too to spare his feelings. That was a red flag to me, if youve been physical with someone and they have something else to do. Well, he didnt and just cut me out of his life with no explanation. You have not heard from him? after all that he went for the hug but not the kiss. I went to work one day, came home and everything was gone, he had moved out I found him at a friends house we started to work things through, he said we were back together and after he got home from his work trip he would move back in. In the meantime, distract yourself with other things you enjoy. I met a guy on an online dating website (needless to say, profile is now closed). Anyhow, most of the times these sort of men tend to re-appear out of the blue a month, two or even a year later with the stupid message Hey, whats up. I know I jumped the gun should have just let him disappear in peace but for my own peace of mind two days later I said ok Ill take the hint. There was no fight or nasty words exchanged between us prior to this break. This guy, being from the same If you arent interested tell me.. Do not disappear. I went on a quest to find my own answers. He encouraged me to do well and be better. I dont think he will in my heart and there goes another 5 days of spinning out of control and worrying how can they be so strong to not communicate at all?? I am working harder because I dont have the constant worry on is this going to be the day that he dumps me? I had sent him his stuff back roughly a month before I had the seizures, so we were mutually on our way out, but would I like to hear from him? That way you have no way to contact them!! And he has been with models and girls who have had Timmy tuck and stuff like that. I am actually flabbergasted at how they can act like everything is so normal when both of us know that he is screwing up badWe chatted for a while and I let the conversation trail off and did not pursue it anymore and he went back to his quiet, disappearing self..No word since then, and I pride myself on not giving in to the urge to check on him however casuallySo this is it, I will probably never hear from him, but I think Over the weekend I will be so busy with other stuff that I will be able to get my mind off himKeep yourself busyBuy yourself something pretty, get a new haircut..or indulge in some delicious gourmet icecreamAnything which will stop you from doing something stupid like reaching out to himI keep telling myself and you should doif/when they are interested they will contact usand if they dont they are not worth the importance and energy that we waste on them..Be strong, you deserve so much better :)). I think I gave her sevral hints that I needed my space, that I could not go on dates or even intimacy. Then we decided to start dating. Why do you take all this time and effort to get to know and be with someone and then just ghost them. They even sat together. I think its more about him doing this to me than it is anything else. No answer. My guy text me and said he was in a foul mood and need time. Did you ever hear back? But he seemed so distant so I left it at that. I dont understand why they would leave it open like this. Like I never existed and meant nothing. That might not be the case and his feelings may have been real but by disappearing that is how it feels. This left me so confused because at a point like this I would want my other half present. We dated for two months, inseparable since our first date. Havent heard from him since and Im getting over him, but it definitely was a blow. He knows my work and where I live doesnt allow for time during the week. No calls, no text messages, and no chance for you to bump into him on the street. Im confused. Oh, the best one. I went through the EXACT same thing with a guy, and it turned out there was someone else in his life and I was the girl on the side. This time has been hell for me and I miss him every day. My question is knowing the background what should I do? One being he gave me a STD and wasnt aware that he could pass it on to me (Or was he thinking it would never happen to him?) so answer the questions and give her the benefit of the doubt. Why do the ghosting after initiating second date? He said that before and was the first to say it. He even told me that wherever this may lead he is 100% invested in it, and that he is going to prove it etc. Hes 30, pursuing is MBA. All along we were never in a official relationship but for a girl its great to get contacted by a man and especially when you believe he is a good one. He got me from a bar once, but he was safe at his oen house he could have waited. My communication outside of texting is great with them. But then again during halloween I just wished him just like to other friends and he immediately started responding. What about us? Right! Or even told you at all. I guess he couldnt handle his emotions. On Monday yesterday he emailed me I didnt respond he call me at work I didnt respond, called a second time I picked up. Awww Sweetie, men do stuff like that when they are getting too closeyour guy probably has baggage that he needs to deal with and perhaps he thought that he could not handle an LDRLet him go..I know the feeling..but usually they do reach out within one to two months, they miss the feeling of being wanted and loved and they miss you but usually for the wrong reasonsI would say let him go and try (and this is going to be very hard) to keep your options openstart dating..indulge yourselfYou are strong enough and smart enough not to have chased himMost women try to reach out in desperation, I have done it in my lowest and darkest times and made a complete fool of myself..Oh yeah, I cringe at the stupid things I have doneIve only just learnt to relax and step back and realize that if a guy truly likes you, you dont have to chase him, he will like pursuing you, in fact he will love it, he will want to have you all to himself and snatch you before anyone else takes you off the market..All you have to do is respond to him positively. I guess what I just really want now is to move on and completely forget about him. Hey just want to share my recent ghosting encounter with you all, what do you think about this dude I was dating?? I have heard that guys get a bit weird around the holidays, especially with a new girl. Its gonna be better if he said to my face were done than nothing at all. not because i was in love with him, but because i truly could not believe that someone could do that to another human being. He wasnt from my area so I figured free dinner and nice conversation! Men have to date down for sex but only marry in their league What I was not expecting was for him to go complete NC. If you've been texting with a dude for say two weeks and then you stop, it's going to take him at least five or six days until he registers the change unless he's very into you. You dont want to grow old with someone that doesnt love you, do you? Unless youve had the relationship talk and agreed you are dating or in a relationship, then the guy doesnt think he ghosted on you. so.. Sabrina is right :), OMG!! He liked that you liked him, and were up to going out with him. You should NEVER want to be with someone who isnt into you for YOU, and its foolish to try. For the past year we always talked at least every few days, sometimes, more that once a day. Its an addiction to. He disappears when he's with his kids 'Barely messages me, sometimes not for days, takes hours to reply to texts, doesn't call' By Meredith Goldstein Globe Staff, Updated January 18, 2021 . Its been 2 weeks now. No amount of excuses or saying that the other girl didnt have this or that will replace the fact that you took the easy way out. He still made plans with me. I feel you talking about my own story!!! I just got sucked into his web of lies. And there is no other woman that I know of. Anyway, to cut a long story short we met up again in person 4 mths after our initial meeting, he expected sex but didnt get ithe said he might buy me a wedding ring one day. You never really praised him! New girlfriend, he never want to see me. So Im supposed to be all like, NO you need to text me and call me, your behavior is unacceptable and I dont care if your mom is dying LOL, no way! You will hate yourself when you realize you gave him control when you could have and should have dumped his worthless, selfish, uncaring ass instead. I know I didnt do anything wrong. As seen above, it has nothing to do with you when a guy does that, so girls! Its painful to be in that situation but what youve got here screams pre-existing condition lol, as in he probably has an ex somewhere that came back into the picture. I wanna give a guys perspective here but only my own or a certain type of male perspective from the time I was guilty of doing this. Single men view the family dynamic quite negatively, unless they already have kids themselves. Amazing actually Let him know that you have your standards and that youre not willing to discard them just because you like him. Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating. ), but maybe deep down shell get the message. Frankly, I would have been suspicious that he was a scam artist. "watching him move and talk in interviews will be so weird i like to imagine he works similarly to fnaf 1 where if you stare at him he doesn't move but if you look away he disappears and reappears in a different position with a new render" Me to trust him. We texted a tiny bit here and there, but I didnt feel ovely interested so it didnt go much past hows your day. please i need your advise, well.. will definitely look forward to honest insight, Alert: No judgmental Attitude Please Its been amazing getting to know you but this is where I let you go. He replied a few days later and then we started texting each other on and off every couple of days. I think its kind of harsh to say that he does not care about me. Do you deserve an explanation? Or maybe not to her in particular because he doesnt want to lead her on? We shared thoughts and have things in common. Hah . We already talked about this from our first date, hes gonna live where I live, and thats the sweetest thing ever. The fairytales that daddy read to you before tucking you in at night were fantasies. So The Internet, social media, iPhones and all those techie dvices now make it easier to not-be-a-man. We connected in early December. his lost anyweiz.. (-_-) thanks for this post.. this what I really need to forget him..its been a month since our last date but until now I honestly cant stop thinking about him.. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. He replied, Settling Down together. And yeah, thats disappointing but its not the be all, end all. 2. He really didnt say anything about that and the subject was changed. First he said I hardly had time to come on here (which I found odd but hes doing long shifts). No!!!! I also told him that I needed to leave a bit early as I had a family evento attend to the next day He was very disappointed but soon got over it . He lived father away. After one hour I called his cell, he had it call forwarded. We had been dating for 2 months. Guys who are interested text back. He was gone in a quick whatsapp msg I love you but I want to go it alone, dont want a relationship at the moment, not a dicky bird since, and I was the one taking things slowim still reelingNever heard of Ghosting until now. It was a painful ordeal nonetheless it was quite a learning experience. I often use the term disposable relationship to describe how the dating scene is now. It does suck and it will for a while but like this post said keep busy and time will heal. He might ghost because he doesn't want to face the music and come clean that you're not right for him (and vice versa). For me, a closure is crucial. He has to know this is hurting you. Its all about me, me, me, and oh by the wayme again. You felt it in your gut, called him out on it and he flaked some more. relationships have to be mutual, and if your partner doesnt have the time or interest to hold up their end of the bargain, its time to carry on with your wonderful life and meet the next one! I met a guy online. The phone calls stopped Thanksgiving week. HoweverI would hesitate to call this a true ghosting. And so we met on Day 8. Im having a hard time reconciling THIS guy (the guy I knew for the last 6 months) and the guy who just up and disappeared. Dont take it personally. Unhealthy. Havent tried contacting him since. 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